Our Song

Our Song: All the Single ladies

Romans 12:2

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

3 focus areas…

  1. Start focusing INWARD.

Proverbs 31:30 says “ Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn’t last, but a woman who fears and reverences God shall be greatly praised.”

I Timothy 6:11-12 “But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness. 12 Fight the good fight of the faith. Take hold of the eternal life to which you were called when you made your good confession in the presence of many witnesses.”

Galatians 6:7 “Don’t be deceived, God cannot be mocked, a man reaps what he sows”

2. STOP focusing OUTWARD

1 Samuel 16: 7 “Man looks on the outward appearance but God looks on the heart.”

I Peter 3:1-6 MSG “What matters is not your outer appearance—the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes—but your inner disposition.
4-6 Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in.”

3. STAY focused UPWARD

I Corinthians 7:7 MSG “Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me—a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others.”

I Corinthians 7:32-35 MSG “I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you’re unmarried, you’re free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I’m trying to be helpful and make it as easy as possible for you, not make things harder. All I want is for you to be able to develop a way of life in which you can spend plenty of time together with the Master without a lot of distractions.

2 practical tips…

  1. Don’t do BLEND DATES.

2 Corinthians 6:14-15 talks about this

2 Corinthians 6:14-15 “You are not the same as those who do not believe. So do not join yourselves to them. Good and bad do not belong together. Light and darkness cannot share together. 15 How can Christ and Belial, the devil, have any agreement? What can a believer have together with a nonbeliever?”

Deuteronomy 22:10 “Do not plow with an ox and a donkey yoked together”

2. Don’t do BLIND DATES

a. Don’t date those who don’t have the SAME VISION as you

Amos 3:3 MSG “Do two people walk hand in hand
    if they aren’t going to the same place?

b. Don’t date people who give you TUNNEL VISION

c. Don’t date people who IMPAIR YOUR VISION

Galatians 5:7 “ You were running a good race. Who cut in on you to keep you from obeying the truth? 8 That kind of persuasion does not come from the one who calls you.”

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 “Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men[a] 10 nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what SOME OF YOU WERE. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

Our Song: You've lost that loving feeling

Our Song
Part 2
You’ve Lost the Lovin’ Feeling

Reasons for conflict

1. Pain

Hurt people hurt people

2. Personalities

A. Sometimes its not wrong its just different

B.It’s the differences that make you complete

C. Decide what am I willing to accept and what do I need to address?

3. Pride

Proverbs 13:10a “pride leads to arguments.”

James 4:1 MSG “Where do you think all these appalling wars and quarrels come from? Do you think they just happen? Think again. They come about because you want your own way, and fight for it deep inside yourselves.

3 practical thoughts…

1. Lay down your TOOL BOX and take up your TOWEL

You are not called to FIX your spouse you are called to SERVE your spouse.

John 13:1-5
“It was just before the Passover Feast. Jesus knew that the time had come for him to leave this world and go to the Father. Having loved his own who were in the world, he now showed them the full extent of his love. 2 The evening meal was being served, and the devil had already prompted Judas Iscariot, son of Simon, to betray Jesus. 3 Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God; 4 so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist. 5 After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples' feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him.”

John 13:1 “Having loved his own who were in the world,
he now showed them the full extent of his love.”

2. Lay down your PING PONG PADDLE and pick up your BASEBALL GLOVE

James 1:19 “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry”

3. Lay down your LUGGAGE and take up GOD’S LOVE.

Isaiah 53:5 “he was CRUSHED for our iniquities”

Colossians 1:19 (MSG) “all the broken and dislocated pieces of the universe—people and things, animals and atoms—get properly fixed and fit together in vibrant harmonies, all because of his death, his blood that poured down from the cross.

Our Song: Forever and Ever Amen

Our Song
Part 3
Forever and Ever Amen

3 reasons marriages fail



a. Family expectations
b. Calendar expectations
c. Money expectations
d. Children expectations


Amos 3:3 NLT “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the DIRECTION?

Ephesians 5:21-27 “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. 25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.”

Matthew 19:3-6 “Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” 4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[a] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[b]? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

"You can't un-one what God made one." Andy Stanley

Our Song: Still the One

Matthew 22:37 “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'

Your marriage will never be better until your relationship with Jesus is better!

1. Talk to your spouse about Jesus

Your Children
Your Work
The Bills
The Family Schedule
Vacation plans
Favorite Netflix show
Relationship with God

Duet 6:4-7 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.[a] 5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”

2. Talk to Jesus about your spouse

a.Praying for you spouse will GUARD you against PRIDE

b.Praying for your spouse will GROW your COMPASSION

c.Praying for your spouse will GIVE you DIRECTION.

3. Talk to Jesus together

2 Chronicles 7:14 “If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, I will forgive their sin and I will heal their land.”

a.Keep it short.
b.Keep it consistent.
c.If you miss a day, don’t miss two.

challenge right now. If your spouse is in the room, pray together with them. If they are not in the room or you are not married, prayer team on the sides